Every child goes through difficult phases, so how do you recognise the signs your child needs counselling? It can be hard to tell when a change in mood or behaviour is part of growing up, and when it is a sign that your child needs extra support. Here is a guide for parents.
Signs your child needs counselling
It may be time to talk to someone if, for more than a few weeks, your child: seems unusually sad, angry or withdrawn; has trouble sleeping or eating; avoids school or friends; worries constantly or has panic attacks; or shows a sudden drop in school performance. For teenagers, watch also for long periods alone in their room, a lot of negative self-talk, or giving up activities they used to enjoy.
If your child mentions self-harm or not wanting to live, do not wait: call 112 in an emergency, or Tele-MANAS on 14416.
How to talk to your child about counselling
Keep it simple and honest, and avoid presenting it as a punishment. For a younger child: “You will talk with someone whose job is to help kids with big feelings.” For a teenager: “It is a space to talk about anything, with someone who is not your parent.”
Let your teenager have a say in when sessions happen and what they would like help with.
Before the first session
Note the changes you have noticed, when they started and anything that seems to make them better or worse. You do not need to decide on a diagnosis yourself. Ask the counsellor who should attend, how consent works, and what parents will be told, and when.
For online sessions, set up a quiet room, a charged device and headphones, and make sure siblings will not interrupt.
Frequently asked questions
When should I take my child to a psychologist?
If a change in mood, behaviour, sleep or school life lasts more than a few weeks or affects daily life, it is reasonable to seek advice. Seek help immediately if your child talks about self-harm.
How do I explain therapy to my child?
Simply and honestly: it is a place to talk about feelings with someone whose job is to help children. Avoid presenting it as a punishment.
Will the counsellor tell me what my teenager says?
Counsellors usually keep details private to build trust, but parents are told if there is a risk to the young person’s safety. Ask how this works before the first session.
Talk to someone
We offer child and teen counselling online, in English, Hindi or Gujarati.
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